quick detour/explanation: in college, when girls would look at rings and proclaim "this is the one i want" and say it loudly enough for all roommates to hear so that future fiances could be steered in the appropriate direction, i never had that moment. nothing ever won me over. this might have been a little bit because after seeing "Blood Diamond," the traditional diamond solitaire felt inappropriate. i eventually decided i was probably more of a pearl person, but i still wasn't super in love with the idea.
back to alyson's post. seeing how stunning a nontraditional engagement ring can be inspired me to do a little searching and find some "this is so me" options.

[alyson's ring. the hammered gold band, the smoky grey stone? sigh.]

[grey diamond ring from erie basin.com]

[black diamond ring from melissajoymanning.com]
now, who knows? by the time my opinion on engagement rings actually matters, i will have probably changed my mind three more times. but at least i know what i want today. that's worth mentioning.